if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all

6.01pm


very good evening to you readers. well another week gone by and the weekend is approaching fast. aigoo. guess nobody can do anything about it but just live in the moment right?

regarding my topic for today. its basically what ronan keating sang - "you say it best when you say nothing at all." fact is this. sometimes people just talk for the sake of talking or they just love to hear their own voice rather than others. motormouth in my opinion.

have you ever come across your friends, family or even relatives who would ask you stupid questions like -

1) if you are not married - "so when are you getting married?" (not knowing the whole situation with your own love life or if you even have one. sometimes it can irritate a person when asked that question because its personal and whose business is it anyway, right?)

2) if you are married - "so when are you going to have children? don't wait too long ok, have them before its too late" (even lets say you have one kid already, they would ask you to have the 2nd or 3rd etc OR if you just got hitched, that's what they will ask the following year if they see you)

3) asking you to go on a holiday "hey, you should go on holiday when you can still walk bla bla bla". excuse me, is it any of your business if I do or don't go on a holiday? are you paying for me? who doesn't want to go for one I ask you? do they know that sometimes some people have got budget constraints, bills to pay, children to feed etc? so easy for them to talk. they don't know what goes on behind closed doors. they only see what they see or think that they are so smart by going on vacations. well good for them then if they can afford it. others cant. most of us have to prioritize. if I had extra cash lying around, don't you think I would be the first one in line to book a trip around the world, that I need you to tell me? try asking a beggar this question and see what his reply is.

to me, all these questions are private(especially 1&2) and its really none of anybody's business but between yourself and your significant half. my parents and even my own mom in law doesn't ask me questions like that. but some relatives have asked me why don't I have kids and well frankly I will answer them nicely and tell them that we don't want any kids. of course, I would then get follow up questions like why bla bla bla. ugh.. why should I explain myself to them I wonder. like I owe them an explanation. what? are they going to pay for the kid/s expenses and education and bring them up? like sponsors? if that's the case, hey I don't really mind then but I have to check with my hubby don't I? but in any case, Im not some charity case.

people talk rubbish all the time. and seriously sometimes it gets to me when such nonsense is coming out of their mouth. let me tell you, ever since I stopped work middle of 2004 and became a housewife, many have asked and told me "so what do you do everyday?", "go and find something to do", "since you are so free, why not look for some part time work?", "why not do some online business?" etc  honestly, do you even know what you are asking? is there something wrong in being a housewife? am I committing a crime here? and also do you ask any housewife each time you see her, "so what is it that you do?" helloooo..are you that blur??? or do you like talking for the sake of talking?

you know, I have gone thru stress when I was working. I know what stress is all about and mind you even when im not working I get stressed easily. my proof is that I have hair fall unfortunately and my body behaves strangely at times. perhaps its my hormones changing due to my age (sigh) but then again, I reckon its more to stress. now, you wonder, what kinda stress does a housewife have? go figure! until you are one yourself (or a househusband), then you tell me. don't knock it till you've tried it ok.

and trust me, I have not much regrets not working. its not like im some over achiever that I have and need to prove to others that im some hot shot CEO or GM etc. I don't need all those fancy smancy titles. god no! I just work to earn a buck or two and im thoroughly happy. I don't live in a chic and fancy uptown apartment, nor do I own a luxury car or go on expensive holidays. I lead a pretty simple life when I was working and even now when im not. I just try to adjust and learn to adapt wherever I am at.

the only tiny regret that I have is not being able to earn my own money when I was so used to it before I stopped work. other than that, I still enjoy life and what has been given to me by my dear old husband. it wasn't easy to uproot my whole life from my home country where I've lived for 30 over years and then moving to another country with just my husband. from being surrounded by family and friends to having none around and then starting fresh. how would you like that?

that's why I have grown accustomed to being by myself and not going out and even trying to make new friends. yes, when I first moved away, I wanted to try that but it was difficult. not so easy as you get older. having kids would have been a bit easier as that was an ice breaker in striking up a conversation with ladies. one can always talk about their own kids with another who has versus those who don't. different wavelength.

after all that's said and done, I wished that sometimes people would stop and think before opening up their mouth when they are talking to someone. it can be your friends or family members. so please try to give a thought  as to whether they would like what is going to be said to them by you (and how would you like it if it was said back to you). don't just talk for the sake of talking. you never know when you have offended a person(if they don't tell you) or if you have overstepped the boundary.

words can either hurt or soothe a person, therefore just mind yourself and think before you speak and try to be sensitive to others before speaking. nobody likes a chatterbox or an empty vessel . then you wont get into trouble, otherwise it will be like a foot in your mouth scenario. think about it.


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6.42pm

saying 3 very simple words - thank you, please and sorry

4.50pm

you know something, I realized(not recently but I just never bothered bringing this topic up until now) that plain common courtesy can go a long way for some people. what the hell Im talking about here you must be wondering?

ok. very simple. these words - Im sorry, thank you and please. just these few basic words can make or break a person. trust me. I know what im talking about here. for me, its automatic. when somebody gives me something or does something for me, I thank them. like when im in a taxi for example, after giving directions to the driver, I thank him automatically. I know im not getting any brownie points for thanking him but hey, whats the big deal if I say it? no harm right?

or lets say when I accompany my mother in law to the hospital and after her appointment, i would get dropped off at the mrt station, I would also thank her. (one would think that, hey shouldn't it be the other way round?). well it doesn't always work out that way im afraid.

saying sorry too can be hard on people. why? because of their big ego. because when they apologize for something, it means that they are admitting its their fault. that they are the culprit. people just don't get it, that by saying sorry, does not necessarily mean its their fault(although sometimes it could be but sometimes not, right?).  in the end, we just want to diffuse the situation so that perhaps it wont escalate further. saying im sorry is like gold, therefore so hard to come out of their mouths.

hey just so you know, not only men have their egos and pride, us women do too, ok. we are all human beings, so what makes the male species so special, talking about their stupid pride and ego hmm? men are not superior and neither are women. we are all equals. what men feel women feel the same. SAME, got it?

I have also noticed that with some people(I wont be naming names here), they rather listen to strangers or friends and wow....even thank them for their advice or suggestions given. but  there is no thanks given at all to the family members, who has been advising them, being beside them thru  all the thick and thin. come on, how bloody hard is it to say thanks?

these people would rather say please and thank you to strangers, whether you get a reply back from them is another story. there are rude people out there who just don't bother. like lets say walk into a building and as you go thru the main entrance, you noticed there's a few people behind you too so you be nice and hold it open for them to walk in right? I ask you, how many of them would thank you for doing that? more often than not, they think that its your job and you only wanted to do it, they didn't force you to hold the door open for them. what? are you the bloody doorman? 

there's also many times when I would get knocked by elderly ladies zooming by and not giving a toss who they have knocked into. they just stride away. not a word of sorry. or even better,  when their shopping cart knocks into you. completely ignore you. and there you are left standing with perhaps a bit of scratches on your ankle area.

that's why this world is so full of hatred and greed and there's just no more respecting one another or just plain being nice to one another. such a rare thing these days I tell you. what im trying to get across here is that we are AWARE of these words and we CHOOSE who we want to say it to more often than not.

ok for example let me ask you. if you did wrong at work and your boss lectures you. what are you going to tell him?  im quite certain you are going to apologize for the mistake that you have created right? you will own up to it right? but when you have done wrong to your loved one, im also darned sure you wont be uttering those words to them. why? because its taken for granted. you have taken them for granted. "aah, why should I say sorry for? she/he knows me. not my style to say sorry. just pretend and act like nothings wrong"...

touch your heart and ask yourself. how often to you utter those words? to me, if im wrong, I would say sorry. I thank people even though sometimes I feel they don't need to be thanked(but instead they should be thanking me). like I said earlier, it just comes naturally for me.

now finally the word please. I hardly hear this from anybody these days. its very sad. very rare I hear it. don't you think that, if you don't use the word please, it would mean that you are ordering a person around like a slave or something? as if they owed you or you owned them. its really very rude you know. how bloody hard can it be to add the extra word - please - when you are asking someone to do something for you? how would you like it if someone just ordered you around like that?

in fact, isn't all these that im preaching about here today the basic fundamental thing that our parents taught us when we were growing up and was even taught in school? im fairly sure that we all know the meaning of these words and yet why is it so hard to say it?

that's why I cant understand till today about peoples behaviour. from the old to the young ones, there's no more politeness in this world. soon it will be extinct, I tell ya. sad very sad. so my dear friends who are reading my blog today, make sure you save these words inside your brain. lets all try to make this world a better place to live in. one small step can make all the difference. love and cherish your loved ones and do not take them for granted.


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5.40pm

BigBang GDragon - One of a kind solo concert in singapore 29 june 2013

11.58am

wow wow...that's all I can say! I attended my first ever Kpop concert here in Singapore and i gotta say that it was effing awesome! its bloody Gdragon from the korean group famously known as Big Bang and GD is the leader of the pack. i couldn't wait to see him in the flesh. would be nice if i could get up close and personal with him but sigh..no dice. oh well. c'est la vie.

right then, the concert was scheduled at 7pm and I left the house around 4.30pm. ok ok, call me impatient. pfftt.. when I arrived at the stadium, holy smokes, there were loads of people, well doh obviously, im so silly! its a bleeding concert, what more its a GD concert! so anyways, the first thing that I wanted to do was to get my hands on some merchandise (before hauling my ass to where i was supposed to be, which was at the north entrance of the stadium) and when I looked for the queue, good lord, it was damn long! as if the merchandise was free!

i started to pace up and down the line, deciding whether to approach my  "victim" so I could ask her to do me a tiny favour by buying me just an item. hmm...now that didn't go as planned. I was thinking that if lets say I were to approach that person and ask her to buy me something, what would the people behind her think? would they beat me to pulp for "jumping" queue or would they be sacarstic and tell me to bugger off and no asking strangers for favors etc. so shit, scrap that thought out of my head.  decided to just walk away and console myself that it was ok, at least i'm at GDs concert and that's what really matters right. 

and then I spotted a large crowd gathered just by the side entrance into the stadium. hmm..whats this, whats going on here? i decided to ask a girl who was standing not too far from me about it. she told me that this crowd was waiting to get into the mosh pit area. i asked her how much did she pay to be in the most pit area because i noticed she had a colored tag on her wrist (different people were wearing different colors). told me was like $200 over bucks. wow..imagine that, pay $200 over bucks just to stand next to the stage and be mashed up against strangers and fans screaming into your ears!

apparently the crowd had already gathered in the morning(some over night) just to get to be the first in line inside the most pit area(they go by numbers) and it was a first come first served basis. and after you've been given a number then you can go off and come back again later (or not). long story short, im guessing that those fans had been standing for a pretty long time and on top of that to stand during the entire 2 hour concert is really no joke.

after watching the crowd for a bit, i decided to just go and wait at the entrance where i was supposed to be at and thankfully the queue was not long because when i purchased my ticket, i got to choose my seat (unlike the most pit area folks) and therefore there wasn't a need to rush to get in line and since yours truly was alone, i might as well park my bum there and just wait to bloody go in.

after standing in line for about an hour, at 6.15pm, they let us in. it was warm and humid outside but once when i got inside, thank god for the blast of aircond. GDs music videos were playing on loop on giant video screens. lucky thing i decided to bring my small binoculars so that i can see better and clearer.  i whipped it out and started looking around to see if i can spot any of the Big Bang members, in case they suddenly appeared. you just never know when they are around. sneaky lil buggers they are.

when 7.15pm came, that's when all hell broke loose. hahaha...yup time for GDs grand entrance, arriving in his futuristic glass looking car and he started his first song MichiGo.

sorry the picture i took was a bit far. that's the best i could do from where i was sitting. felt as though it was so near yet so far. and so the brilliant concert continues. mind you, there was never a dull moment throughout the show, even during the short interludes, the music that was being played(instrumental) was very upbeat. besides great music , there were also lots of colourful laser lights shooting about, tiny explosions of fire, mock up of huge butterflies floating around (when he belted out one of my favourite songs Butterfly)etc. it was just simply amazing. not only that, GDs costumes were really out of this world not to mention his dancing too.

GD sang songs from his One of a Kind album and 2 songs by Big Bang, which was Fantastic Baby and Bad Boy. Let me tell you he can work the crowd into a frenzy. no shit. this guy has got skillz. from having a 5 team member(including himself) during concerts to going solo can be daunting. you know when you've always had your members around you to being alone on stage and doing almost everything on your own is tiring as hell.

(these 2 pictures above i took from GDs official facebook page. so it doesn't belong to me). anyway, first picture is of GD and CL (from the popular Korean girl group 2ne1) doing a duet. 2ne1 consists of 4 girls who were special guests at GDs concert and they performed 3 of their popular songs. but only CL and GD did a duet. and lastly the next picture is at the closing of the concert. alas all good things must come to an end. it was euphoric though.

i shall never forget my first ever kpop concert and it was banging! im glad i went and  had a great time there, still cant believe i actually saw one of my idols in concert. now im just waiting patiently for Big Bangs next concert, hopefully one where they will do all their famous hits. fingers crossed. you know all these years I've scoffed at friends who were so into the Korean dramas or scene but now..look at me. ai ya ya. i have learnt a lesson here, to never say never. because one day, you just don't know what will hit you and then you are caught hook, line and sinker.

ok ttfn


1.20pm