thoughts for this festive season

11.53am

what is the meaning of christmas to you? is it about gifts? is it about being together with your loved ones? or both? well for whatever reason it may be, i hope you will spare a thought or two for those who cant afford any gifts for their families or to even put food on the table and have a small celebration of some kind. and also for those who dont have their loved ones around them on this special occasion. consider yourself lucky, to be surrounded by your family and friends and having a good meal around the table.

you know, each time when im out and about, i see families walking around the malls or out in the streets or just sitting at a foodcourt eating together. i ask myself -" are they really happy? or is this just a front? a show they have to put on in front of people." . i have some friends who are divorced or lost their spouses, telling me that sometimes when they go out, they see all these so called happy families around, they would feel the lonliness, perhaps bitterness or feeling of envy(or mixed emotions) because they dont have their other half or loved ones beside them. i know they cant help but feel like that. but i tell them, this is  what you see on the outside. you do not know what goes on behind closed doors. most of us put on a show when we go out . do you realize that? i guess not because its automatic, second nature that we dont even realize that we are doing what we are doing. from  the moment we step out of our house, we are already putting on the greatest performance ever. and most of us do not want to dirty our laundry in public now do we. therefore, we do this "show" for all to see.

now coming back to the spirit of christmas. i know there's alot of folks out there in the world who feels alone, unloved, unwanted, helpless, suffering etc but we just gotta have faith. i mean what can i say. fact is, dont expect a miracle although you can hope for one. life is and can be cruel. and you can keep on asking yourself, why me? why me? unfortunately nobody can answer that. i think that throughout in our lives, we are usually given choices. options. and its what we chose or decided that what lead us here, today, our current situation. generally speaking, we were not forced or coerced into our decision making. therefore whatever route we are walking on now, are based on the outcome of our decisions. dont you agree? try not to regret too much. because honestly, whats done is done. you cant undo time or go back in time to alter things.

so thats why i say, take this time to relfect on what you have done thruout the year and for 2013, well, try to do better and dont make the same mistakes that you've done in 2012. try to improve yourself, to better yourself. dont sweat the small stuff. look at the bigger picture. and take care of your well being, your health, your sanity.

god bless all of you and may 2013 be even better than 2012.

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